Way to Good Parenting…

Each time I fail to click a nice selfie,
Each time I fail to quote the most recent activity on global channels,

Each time I can’t recall the latest hit movie,

I wonder if i was meant to be where I am..

A strange sense of unease fills me when I see that it doesn’t mean anything if you scored good marks in our times…

If you make the best you exist else you don’t. Period.

Do you think it is normal to be perfect? Doesn’t it sound bizarre to the ear? Darwin’s theory of evolution is today the major factor eliminating normalcy and we as humans are trying to ape the ‘finches’ to fit the accord. 

If an adult chooses to follow this cult I see no reason to argue, people have the right to decision. But in the same voice I intend to question the parenting that leaves no room for decision on the part of the child! You would obviously counter me by saying that children have no wisdom to make decisions. To an extent, I agree. But don’t the adults  have the wisdom to incorporate a child’s desire into the plan they chalk out to make their child a successful individual some day. 

For the early years of life it’s understandable why a parent is making each decision for a child. But is it justified, for people to force their opinion on an adolescent just because it doesn’t reconcile with what they dreamt for their child? Who will the child make decisions for? Why are we preventing children from pursuing their own paths towards the tomorrow of their choice?

Now parents will try to justify their actions by claiming that it is for the child’s benefit. Maybe be it is but what if it is not? Can you guarantee that you’d be there to make all their major decisions for them or with them? Do you not see that by preventing them from making small decisions you are rendering them vulnerable in the face of bigger diversities! 

Give them the freedom of choice… if they win rejoice with them… if they lose weep with them. When the time comes teach them- To be humble when they win and gracious when they lose. Teach them that victory should not go to head nor failure to heart.

No one knows it better than you that the world is not a bed of roses. Don’t offer them roses without thorns. Teach them to be careful enough with roses not to be hurt but if they are callous let them experience the sting.Do not steal the joy of learning and deciding from them. Guide them through the woods rather than thinking of walking their journey.

Give them the freedom to walk the road less travelled by. May be while you were journeying that wasn’t the one to follow but who knows it might take your child farther into their field, it might turn into the road of excellence for them!.. this is a world of million uncertainties; discover a new way of being you and let your children do the same.

Instill in them the virtue of integrity, discipline and righteousness. Fill their hearts with compassion, eyes with dream, minds with constructive ideas and body with the power of inner strength; and steer them into the world. That is your responsibility. Let them be led by the sands of time from thereof. For to love is to have the potential to set them free because….

“Your children are not your children…..”-Khalil Gibran.

Let their memories have the fragrance of freedom,

Let them not be stinking of bondage…

Give them the gift of your Faith in their abilities,

Let them define their skies…

Don’t judge them…Just love them…..

The Tomorrow 

There are dreams in my eyes, 

Broken, shattered some intact…

There are stars in the sky,

Vibrant,  illuminating yet diminishing, burning…

There are trees on the soil,

Lush, ever giving but progressively dying…

There are fishes and frogs,

Swimming,  playful but sinking, choking…

There are threads of relationship,

Innumerable, wide but shallow and lifeless…

There are tablets, tablets and capsules,

Saving, curing yet punishing, pushing and addictive…

There is a sole soul in the universe,

Knotted, mended but severely injured…

There is a cycle of summers, springs, autumn and winters;

Yet the time remains frosted into the impenetrable smog of industrial accomplishments…

There are dreams in my eyes,

Thriving, zealous but just dreams…

Timeless are the curtains of age,

Hanging on to the uncertainty called LIFE….

Stooped shoulders, wrinkled faces and quivering hands are awaiting,

Set to pounce on the moments of care, love and attention;

The very ones they showered unnoticed in the past…

There’s a whole world full of stray animals,

Strolling… in search of humanity,

In the wastelands of single minded machines but failing rentlessly, day and night…

Shivering in the cold, sweating in the Sun, suffering out of disease but dying unceremoniously out of callous human actions,

Reckless, ruthless yet seemingly acceptable…

Painted is the earth in the toxic hues of DDT, pesticides, acid rain

But the master stroke in the Indifference by the most intelligent human race,

There is a leaden sky..

A future with promises of fog and endless darkness…

Is there a tomorrow?.. Are you prepared for The Tomorrow?…

CHANGES…

Walking down the September roads I felt there was something strange…They were drenched all over…with ditches and garbage, mosquitoes and flies…There was a vivid display of squashed vegetables…brinjals, onions, tomatoes, potatoes…To add to the beautiful sight were a tattered pair of spectacles orphaned or forgotten.. maybe both. I caught a young boy kicking a small puppy and his kinds enjoying the performance… There was this girl in the modest most dress, being X- rayed by a bunch of vulgar eyes…. And a girl being tortured for wearing the ‘ EXICITING SET OF DRESS’ by some purely intelligent on-looking women… I saw an old man being pushed out of the queue time and again with his face etched with pain… I watched the wide roads being not wide enough for people riding on the footpath… Waiting for my daily bus, each day I witness as vehicle after vehicle proudly puff rings of smoke into the beautifully green areas of Rajpur… eroding the gleam that made it creme-de-la-creme… 

I REALISE ITS NOT ONLY THE NATURE BUT ALSO THE PEOPLE THAT HAVE CHANGED. 

We are fools…worrying about melting icebergs because each of us is converting into one….thinking about the changes in climate when our own principles and moral education are greatly distorted and needs proper orientation…worrying about best brands and consumer rights when we are ignorant of our duties as citizens… campaigning about pollution and garbage yet callously throwing our domestic waste outside the dustbin with disgusting looks towards the offensive smell of priorly deposited dump… we busy ourselves finding faults in the system, our surroundings and the way people are leading their lives while our own actions and behaviour create a mockery of our False-Prestige… worrying about nation’s policies  while there is a constsnt war raging between empathy and neglect within us… we remain unaware that in a race to gather stones we are missing out on Diamonds… The area of majorest impact is our mindset that is clogged, reduced and suffering from the smog of negative and vicious thoughts full of greed, jealousy, anger and ill-will. Half the world is maddening trying to establish Woman  Empowerment while the other half is adamant to nibb their wings before they can dream of flight… but the irony lies in the fact that there is no definite boundary separating the two world..In the lime light we claim to seek justice for Nirbhaya but in the light of the night are discussions revolve around authenticity in the character of the girl… From the land where clothes were manufactured by man to the land where the ‘LENGTH OF THE SKIRT DECIDES THE CHARACTER OF THE GIRL’, that is clothes make man… we are facing an acute phase of retrogressive development… and they say GOOD TIMES HAVE COME.. but we need to ask ourselves are we permitting them to descend… the lungs of Dehradun are constricted and clooged blocking the passage of pure air… and the nature of this Disorder is chronic and nagging… it won’ t take it long to spread to our lung threatening our Breathing… we are a CLASSIC CASE OF EDUCATED ILLITERATES… WISE FOOL…. SMART NINCOMPOOPS…BUT the most heart breaking is BLINDS WITH SIGHT LACKING BOTH VISION AND ASSOCIATION OF PERCEPTION… We see the soil and are reminded of dirt failing to see the essence of our mother nature in it.. ASHAMED OF SHABBY CLOTHES AND SODDY FURNITURE WHIKE WE SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF SODDY THOUGHTS AND HENIOUS ACTIONS…. We have brought about an age of ruthless success where there is no place for SELFLESSNESS… TO CLIMB UP THE LADDER PEOPLE HAVE TO PRACTICE NO SENSE AND NO SENTIMENTS ATTITUDE… we have converted ourselves into a bunch of sadists who find peace in other’s agony… BELIEVE ME, WE DON’T HAVE TO DO ALL THIS…At the final court you’d be judged on your good deeds not on the acquisitions you gather here… Let your life be about express and empowering not about impressing and suppressing..

THESE ARE THE TIMES OF GLOBAL WARMING YET WE HUMAN BEINGS HAVE THE POWER TO CREATE A GLOBAL HEART FROSTING ERA. DESPITE TEH HEAT AND THE NEED OF THE HOUR.

The point is this doesn’t pain moor perturb me… Yes, it doesn’t… I don’t seek a world full of sanity, morality and wisdom… The startling thing is the fact that when I make my bit of a change I AM ALONE IN IT… I AM A SOLITARY LOON WALKING DOWN A FOOLISH LANE…
I AM NOT AFRAID TO WALK ALONE… BUT I AM READY TO WELCOME THOSE WHO SEEK THE MAGIC OF CHANGE, THE JOY OF SATISFACTION AND THE SLEEP FULL OF QUITE BREATHING. .. A PEACE OF MIND THAT ONLY BEING NOBLE AND HUMBLE BUT MORE IMPORTANTLY HUMAN CAN GRANT..

“YOU MAY SAY I AM A DREAMER,  BUT I AM NOT THE ONLY ONE …  I HOPE DAY YOU’LL JOIN ME..” AND BELIEVE ME I HAVE ENOUGH PATIENCE TO SUFFICE FOREVER… FOR I KNOW SMALL EFFORTS HAVE THE POTENTIAL TO BRING COLLATERAL CHANGES,  IT ONLY TAKES A LITTLE MORE TIME…

May love light up the world…

LONG LIVE HUMANITY!!!  LONG LIVE PEACE!!! 

Important but fading…

It is my dirge for the beautiful object that I was awarded for my fourteehth birthday which lay with me for a long time, till its glass finally cracked… It now adorns my treasury chest where all my long gone and disfunctional yet valuable belonging rest in peace till on some lonely weekends I surf ​ through them to relive my growing years….

It’s my way of saying that nothing no glossy gadgets, or busy schedule can replace or wipe your essence… you were, you are and you shall be there…

My panic while shuffling,  scribbling and struggling through the question paper,
My boredom as a insignificant lecture dragged on,

My lethargy as I slept past the morning hours,

My anxiety, fear or excitement while I waited outside the Principal’s office…

You have seen it all.

In frantic moods I asked you to rush or to pause, to slow or to speed,

But must praise your principles you stood your ground and kept your pace;

Bounded by a silver strap and fuelled by Silicon dioxide…

Remembering the day I bought you at the Fast track  showroom,

I pride my decision 

For having chosen a worthy companion..

Dear wrist watch,

Thank you for beating with my heart and helping me grow more punctual each day.

Ever Wondered..

Why there is so much pain and aggression… so much garbage and growing flies.. so many broken bones and flowing blood…. so many tattered relationships and uncared for elders… so many riots and so many rapes… so much violence and innumerable suicides…. so less topics of conversations and so many of debates.. less action and more promises… countless allegations and pointless rallies… no introspection and no transformations… floating corpse and drowning lives… eternal darkness on the brink of light…  elementary education often a plight… freinds in foreign and neighbourhood fights… so much infrastructure shadowing the cozy sunshine… oxygen in cylinders and toxin in air… water in bottles and sewage in rivers… fountains in valleys and floods in plains… flourishing brand ambassadors and dying farmers… mourning over Shaktiman and blindkilling of simple sheeps… street full of stray animals and houseful of gadget tied social animals… degrading cultural heritage and accelerating trendy westerns’… mind clogging depression and euphoric liquor… so few trees and so much wood demand… so less colour and gallons of paint… so less to suffice yet so much to hide…. more doors and boundaries than windows… so much plastic and so less elasticity… so many possibilities yet so less success stories… so many drugs and so less health… so many Xerox paper and so less originality… so many students but scarce scholars… so many books but so less wisdom… every thing in gadgets but nothing in memories…   dazzling glances of fiture and fading lessons of history…so many patients and so less patience… so much ego and so less humility… the big world becoming a global town while each individual is fast becoming an island… the whole world is conected and families are drifting apart…there is so much thirst yet very few droplets of elixir… there is so less rain and so much acid in acid-rain…

The world is ruined by just a single thing, in its multiple fabrics … Expectations…. which beautifully leads to Agony and Neglect…shifting the onus comes easy to humans…

Waiting for the right time and right person to lighten the Leaden Sky… Hence, we have been waiting so long tired although but tireless to wait…. Stop blaming others for your actions…now is the moment to take Charge…

Believe in your strength to bring that Momentous Destiny into action…

Forgive Faults…. Forget Failures… Flourish Fathomlessly…..


It’s not you or me… It’s US…

What would you do…                                                                                                            If you are more powerful than someone else… You’ d  suppress them and act mighty and high?…or Give them sanctuary?…                                                                If you are more talented than your colleague… Would you try to wipe them out of the race….or Help them flourish into resilience under your guidance…     If you have something in excess… Would you pride over it… or Lend it to someone who direly needs it…                                                                                          If given a choice would you return a heavy and loaded wallet knowing fully that It can save your mother or daughter whose life is ebbing to the end….?? . Would you then be tempted to practice your lessons of RIGHTEOUSNESS…       If you come across a street animal wounded and bleeding… Would you volunteer to pick It up and facilitate its journey back to recovery… and give it the comfort of your presence…Or Would you recall all the reasons from unhygienic action to the threat of time waste and walk out on him…..                 If You see an accident victim on the road…Do you reach out to help them..or Are you a part of the AFRAID, IGNORANT, COWARD, NUMB Crowd… But that doesn’t stop you from yelling for help or cursing people when It’s you or you loved ones there?… A single helping hand could have got NIRBAYA the life she lost… that thousand RALLIES, ALLEGATIONS,  CANDLE MARCHES couldn’t…    It’s not about claiming that the culprits be punished…. It’s whether you would walk into the punishment or hide away from it if the crime is yours…    

Why do we expect people to understand when our emotions are wounded and soul is bleeding when we had the audacity to ignore the dear animal who was crooning past the regular silence to be heard… Our silences should be heard while we act deaf to other soul’ s pain..   It sounds hurting When someone says BUSY when you need them… Shouldn’t it give you an insight into how other feel when you are BUSY…. When we are powerful we feel free to inflict pain… yet when we are at someone else’s mercy we actually  expect them to act MERCIFUL…If we don’t require things any longer they find place into waste-bins..But if we are no longer needed at a venue it hurts our ego?..Why.. Don’ t we do the same.. If we desperately need something many a times we are compelled to beg, borrow or even steal… But that is somehow pardonable Whereas if we lose something and it falls and first in someone innocent’ s life they are cheats?. If we wants someone to help us climb up the ladder our only gratitude is to pull them down.. While we shut our eyes to those who’d need just a hint from us to discover their dimensions… 

They say,

WE ENTER LIFE ALONE PLAY OUR ROLES AND HEAD OUT ALONE.

  BUT BELIEVE ME… WE ARE NEVER ALONE..                                                                All the paths that we traverse as we walk by life our actions walk with us.. that dog you helped or didn’t.. that victim you helped save or didn’t… that junior whose life you changed for better or for worse..those people’s joy who you anchored in tough times…It all acts as a shade saving you from the Acid in the Rain, that life can become..

Don’t wait for someone else… More often than always it’s about do you love yourself…. and the people around….when no one does… 

 Because if you can’t why would someone else. . It has to be US and only you can take a step that will lead to that US..