Each time I fail to click a nice selfie,
Each time I fail to quote the most recent activity on global channels,
Each time I can’t recall the latest hit movie,
I wonder if i was meant to be where I am..
A strange sense of unease fills me when I see that it doesn’t mean anything if you scored good marks in our times…
If you make the best you exist else you don’t. Period.
Do you think it is normal to be perfect? Doesn’t it sound bizarre to the ear? Darwin’s theory of evolution is today the major factor eliminating normalcy and we as humans are trying to ape the ‘finches’ to fit the accord.
If an adult chooses to follow this cult I see no reason to argue, people have the right to decision. But in the same voice I intend to question the parenting that leaves no room for decision on the part of the child! You would obviously counter me by saying that children have no wisdom to make decisions. To an extent, I agree. But don’t the adults have the wisdom to incorporate a child’s desire into the plan they chalk out to make their child a successful individual some day.
For the early years of life it’s understandable why a parent is making each decision for a child. But is it justified, for people to force their opinion on an adolescent just because it doesn’t reconcile with what they dreamt for their child? Who will the child make decisions for? Why are we preventing children from pursuing their own paths towards the tomorrow of their choice?
Now parents will try to justify their actions by claiming that it is for the child’s benefit. Maybe be it is but what if it is not? Can you guarantee that you’d be there to make all their major decisions for them or with them? Do you not see that by preventing them from making small decisions you are rendering them vulnerable in the face of bigger diversities!
Give them the freedom of choice… if they win rejoice with them… if they lose weep with them. When the time comes teach them- To be humble when they win and gracious when they lose. Teach them that victory should not go to head nor failure to heart.
No one knows it better than you that the world is not a bed of roses. Don’t offer them roses without thorns. Teach them to be careful enough with roses not to be hurt but if they are callous let them experience the sting.Do not steal the joy of learning and deciding from them. Guide them through the woods rather than thinking of walking their journey.
Give them the freedom to walk the road less travelled by. May be while you were journeying that wasn’t the one to follow but who knows it might take your child farther into their field, it might turn into the road of excellence for them!.. this is a world of million uncertainties; discover a new way of being you and let your children do the same.
Instill in them the virtue of integrity, discipline and righteousness. Fill their hearts with compassion, eyes with dream, minds with constructive ideas and body with the power of inner strength; and steer them into the world. That is your responsibility. Let them be led by the sands of time from thereof. For to love is to have the potential to set them free because….
“Your children are not your children…..”-Khalil Gibran.
Let their memories have the fragrance of freedom,
Let them not be stinking of bondage…
Give them the gift of your Faith in their abilities,
Let them define their skies…
Don’t judge them…Just love them…..